WHY DO WE ACT FUNNY ABOUT DEATH?

<p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 15.693333625793457px; margin: 0cm 0cm 8pt; text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-US">So.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 15.693333625793457px; margin: 0cm 0cm 8pt; text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-US">There’s this thing people do with death, I desperately choose to think it’s because death is something we don’t understand and can’t fully fathom. This must be why we sometimes act out of character when faced with it. But you don’t see people act this way when the death hits closer to home, the death of an immediate family member or friend.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 15.693333625793457px; margin: 0cm 0cm 8pt; text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-US">How do we watch a woman who just lost her husband, collapse on the ground and scream out in pain, yet we bring out our mobile phones, record and post such a heart-wrecking and private moment on the internet? How do we zoom in so close that her tears are captured in HD for the world to see her pain, pain they probably cannot understand, pain they cannot bear or share, even if they all wished to, pain that can never be lessened? How do we feel comfortable putting out this horror on the internet, floating there forever, for everyone to see, a reminder of the loss that can never be replaced, the rip in her existence that can never be mended?<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 15.693333625793457px; margin: 0cm 0cm 8pt; text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-US"><img alt="Life &amp; Death Poem For a Funeral or Passing Friend" class="n3VNCb" data-noaft="1" jsaction="load:XAeZkd;" jsname="HiaYvf" src="https://www.paradoxicalvista.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/life-death-poem.jpg" style="height: 639px; margin: 0px; text-align: start; width: 427.83357245337163px;" /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 15.693333625793457px; margin: 0cm 0cm 8pt; text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-US">Death reminds us of how life can seem fickle and pointless sometimes, other times, it motivates us to live. But why do we only remember at this point that we need to “Live life to the fullest’ because “tomorrow is not promised, today is a gift’ and so you need to “give people their flowers now that they’re here”? I could go on and on, but honestly there’s an endless supply of cliché phrases people dig up when someone passes. We know these things, but they are not things that should be the topic of conversation when someone dies. I don’t even have a problem with being reminded of these things, the problem I have is with the change of subject. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 15.693333625793457px; margin: 0cm 0cm 8pt; text-align: justify;"><span lang="EN-US">I think that in issues such as mourning, the focus should be on the person who is gone and helping the family through what must be a trying time, and not on the lessons to learn from his/her death. I think this is only fair for the sake of those left behind. No one wants their sorrow to be the topic of your motivational speech. Grieve with them, support them and be there for them in any way you can; in your kind and comforting words, in material things (food, money, payment for burial services) or by just showing up and being a silent presence). Don’t go posting a long ass sermon on IG for goodness knows whose benefit, just move on or be quiet while others grieve.<o:p></o:p></span></p>

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WHY DO WE ACT FUNNY ABOUT DEATH?

So. There’s this thing people do with death, I desperately choose to think it’s because death is something we don’t understand and can’t ful...

IT'S THE LITTLE THINGS

<div style="text-align: justify;">Today I was scrolling through the 'gram and I was looking at the "Suggested for you" drop down and  I clicked and landed on a nice looking page, great aesthetics and all. Not sure why the follower count caught my eye, because it never does, but I saw that she had 9,999 followers.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">After like a minute, it clicked to me that if I followed her, I would be her 10,000th follower and she would become part of the #SwipeUpGang. You're probably thinking, that's quite superficial...does it put money on the table? Well maybe it does for her, or maybe it doesn't. What's important to know is, for most content creators there's a lot of hard work, planning, strategising and implementing said strategy that goes into growing and providing value to a community and every chance I get, I choose to celebrate the, make life easier for them in every way I can. Especially as someone who has struggled with growth and being consistent. I know the feelings of inadequacy, wanting to give up, actually giving up but falling back in love again.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">So I clicked the follow button, watched it turn to 10k and let out a happy squeal and a little dance. I felt like I'd just given her a gift and it was such a super happy moment for me.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">In this current clime and with the spate of bad news we receive on a daily basis, sadness everywhere, I'm choosing to take my happiness anywhere I find it, in whatever form. Helping someone hit a 10k follower goal/milestone, having no acid reflux all day even after eating 2 whole meals, seeing the sun after 3 days of constant rain, neck hugs and kisses on my cheek from my niece. These are my happiness.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">xxx</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Belinda.</div>

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IT'S THE LITTLE THINGS

Today I was scrolling through the 'gram and I was looking at the "Suggested for you" drop down and  I clicked and landed on a ...

SALON LAUNCH OR NAH

<div style="text-align: justify;">Sooo...I braided my hair myself. Yup. Like my entire head of hair, I put it all in braids.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">It's probably not a big deal to you but to me it's such an achievement. I've wanted to do this since the lockdown started but oh the fear. I was worried that I would start and not be able to finish because I was tired or it looked horrible. I didn't trust myself to finish it so I kept putting it off.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">I kept seeing people with their hair in braids and one day I just decided to go for it. Worst case scenario, I won't finish it and have to go around with half-done hair right? I went to the supermarket, bought the hair extensions, "pulled" them and got busy.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">I won't tell you lies, I sort of cheated so it would be easier for me:</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">1. I made the braids big so that I'd be done faster.</div><div style="text-align: justify;">2. I made them a little bit shorter than I would have liked too.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">All in all, I think I did pretty well and it's something I see myself doing over and over again. Yes even after Corona.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">The most obvious lesson from the story is that you can achieve anything you want to, as long as you decide that you can. Most likely, you'll achieve it.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">I'm definitely looking for new things to try out, I love using my hands.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">I'll let you know what other adventures I get up to :)</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">xxx</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Belinda</div>

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SALON LAUNCH OR NAH

Sooo...I braided my hair myself. Yup. Like my entire head of hair, I put it all in braids. It's probably not a big deal to you but to me...

TOP 10 TV SHOWS ON NETFLIX

<div style="text-align: justify;">If you're looking for TV Shows on Netflix that are really really good and that you can watch in a week or 2 (with 2 or less seasons), then I've got just the thing for you.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">I did a whole Youtube video with my Top 10 bingeworthy and highly-rated TV Shows.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Hope you like them as much as I do. </div><br /><br /> <br /><br /> <iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="270" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/QAvKwUkMOGw" width="480"></iframe>

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TOP 10 TV SHOWS ON NETFLIX

If you're looking for TV Shows on Netflix that are really really good and that you can watch in a week or 2 (with 2 or less seasons), th...

I'M THANKFUL FOR...

<div style="text-align: justify;">I'm thankful for GREAT friends that make life so much easier. You know them, the ones that even though you had a mad argument, will still make sure you're taking your meds and you're fine. Like, you don't have to be in the best place in your relationship to still be loved.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">I'm thankful for family, the best type a girl could ever ask for; the type that show up for you when you're in need and love you when you're in the worst place and shape of your life.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">I'm thankful for a lover that loves me totally, intentionally, loves every part of me from my crooked toes to my underbite and argumentative self.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">I'm thankful for the love of God, for his mercy that cannot be explained.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">I'm thankful for his provision; a good job, food on my table, bills paid...he really takes care of everything for me.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">I'm thankful, I have so many reasons to be. I hope we never run out of reasons to be thankful.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">xxx</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Belinda</div>

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I'M THANKFUL FOR...

I'm thankful for GREAT friends that make life so much easier. You know them, the ones that even though you had a mad argument, will stil...

THE PROBLEM WITH INVITING A 3RD PARTY INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP

<div style="text-align: justify;">Heyyy You,</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">I was reading some old blog posts, like where I shared <a href="http://www.diaryofafashionenthusiast.com/2015/10/the-most-embarrassing-story-ever.html" target="_blank">the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to me</a> and I thought it's been a while since I shared anything personal.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Started digged into my memory for something to share with you today and then...nothing. Wow. Guys, I think I'm too mature. It's like I've stopped doing nonsense things. I can't believe this. LMAO.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">But I have one today sha, from when my life seemed like an episode of , constant chaos everywhere.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">So many years ago, I was dating this guy and we were having some problems. I talked to one of my "friends" about it and she gave me advice and all that, but the problem got really bad. This is where I made a mistake, I got her involved. I think we created a group chat on BBM and she attempted to help settle it. End of the day, nothing was really settled and we broke up a few weeks after that. Fast forward to about a month later, I found out that my "friend" came to Lagos (she lived in Portharcourt at the time) and met up with my ex-boyfriend, on the grounds that we had broken up at the time. She never mentioned this me, but my ex and I got back together and during a conversation we were having, he let it slip. He claimed nothing funny happened but those 2 weren't to be trusted then or even now, so they could have lied.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Till today, I can't really say how I got tangled in that mess. How I dated someone so foolish and how I was friends with such a horrible person but I think my judgement back then was really off. I know that I'm a way better judge of character now.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Moral of the story: One, be mindful of who you share your problems with. Two, Consider the Pros and Cons of bringing a 3rd party into your relationship one million times over because that person can F you up totally. And three, if your "boyfriend" and "friend" ever do something as foolish as this, un-boyfriend him and "un-friend" them ASAP ok?</div><div><br /></div>

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THE PROBLEM WITH INVITING A 3RD PARTY INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Heyyy You, I was reading some old blog posts, like where I shared  the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to me  and I thought it...