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Posted by / Thursday, August 13, 2015 / 14 Comments

On Churchiness and things

Hi Guys!

Something happened at work last week that got me writing this post.

I was working jejely on my own oh, minding my business and things, when my colleague asked after "my guy". I replied calmly that I don't have a guy (I should have probably lied and save myself the sermon I knew was coming but as a christian trying to live right I thought, nah don't need no lies right now. Besides, I was curious to see how he would react). He asked if I was joking and when I reiterated my relationship status, he asked why. Before I could even explain that these things aren't exactly planned and all, he began analysing for me. He literally started talking to himself and it went like this:

Colleague: You're tall, pretty enough, curvy in all the right what's the problem?
Me: Well, maybe...
Colleague: (cutting in before I could speak) have a good job and can take care of yourself.
Me: I think...
Colleague: (cutting in again)...You are not arrogant, you will submit to your husband like a well brought up woman should.
Me: I quite agree with you but...
Colleague: Or maybe you're too churchy.

I was just about to say I wasn't too churchy, but then...Gheun! I repeated the question in my head and immediately my brain froze and melted and all I could see was white hot steam. We then proceeded to have a very heated discussion which I can't say here.

Oh, if you for one moment thought this post was relationship inclined, you thought wrong.

What does being too churchy mean exactly? Is it saying "it is well" at the end of every sentence? Or "bless you" every time someone sneezes or coughs? Is it in the little phrases like "God will provide" or "God forbid" in our every day parlance?

Is it praying before I leave my house each day? Or praying before I start my car, asking God to lead me out and bring me back safely? Is it talking to him in my head while I'm working, attending mid-week services, Sunday services and even vigils?

I really don't know what being churchy is and why it's labeled it's a bad thing. All I know is I'm pretty much totally dependent on God and if people can't see it, then there's a problem with me. Then I'm not living a godly-enough life because every thing I do must show Jesus in me. if that's being too churchy, then make me the President of the Churchy Club.

So if guys don't like me because I'm churchy, well then. We move!

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  1. I really like this post and it's such a silly thing for someone to say another person is churchy!! What exactly is churchy? or spirikoko as people say? I feel people should respect people's faith at all times. The whole issue of having a man as a young lady can be really overwhelming especially in Nigeria. They think someothing is wrong with you if you don't have one...hehehehehhehehe...I dey wait for Part 2...xx

    1. The lack of respect is what gets to me. Lool @ Part 2....might just do that :)

  2. I love this. Preach!!! It is so encouraging to read posts like this, nice one.

    1. Thanks ifunanya, it was such a random post...wasn't sure anyone would like/relate to it.

      Glad you did :)

  3. Lovely post. I have an 'It is well friend'. Everything ends with it is well. Nope I don't see her as churchy cos shes not, I see her as 'accepting' every thing in that manner. Like a default defeat sort of. Dunno of u get my drift, err ok bye.

    1. Hey Grace! I get you..."it is well" is what we say when we don't want to push/fight for what we want. We adopt the que sera sera attitude...quite defeatist.

  4. Lol! Nigerians lack respect for boundaries. KMT! While people are aspiring to be closer to God this fellow is busy labeling. He better face God and learn some manners.

    1. Lmao @ learn some manners. But you're so right, we don't know how to mind our business and respect peoples' beliefs/opinions.

  5. The best part, "we move"
    High five I get what you mean, I sort of face the constant questioning *sigh

    1. Lol! I'm glad you got the point. It's so unfortunate the society we live in defines achievements and fulfilment by being married, hence the unnecessary pressure to settle down.

      You'll be ok hun :)

  6. He's a joker. What does he mean by "because you're churchy?" Abi churchy people don't date and get married shey? I think he was just looking for an excuse to talk. And I agree with your last statement... BYE, AND DON'T LET THE DOOR HIT YOU ON THE WAY OUT!

    Berry Dakara Blog

    1. LMAO...thanks girl! Glad you feel the same way...he really is a joker!

      Thanks for the comment :)

  7. As iiiiin!!! I know exactly what your talking about! They'll now be saying it like an accusation. Me, I firmly hold my ground and say that I'm a christian. Deal with it.

    Mira La Belle blog


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